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Cherie’s Place – Thought for the Week

All happiness in the world comes from thinking about others, and all suffering in the world comes from preoccupation with yourself.

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28 Comments CherryPie on Oct 12th 2014

28 Responses to “Cherie’s Place – Thought for the Week”

  1. J_on_tour says:
    October 12, 2014 at 10:23 pm

    It’s strange how I heard the gist of this post from two residents today having a conversation in the lounge where my Mother resides. Two happy people, one who put his family first and the other is a blessing to everyone including the people who visit. Food for thought today for me amongst other sunday lessons to work on.

    • CherryPie says:
      October 12, 2014 at 10:59 pm

      How is your Mother? I do wonder from time to time as you had not mentioned her for a while.

      If we search inside ourselves we know how to be happy :-)

      • J_on_tour says:
        October 12, 2014 at 11:36 pm

        Thanks for your concern but my Mother is not great with the Dementia. On the plus side, she knows who I am, what I’m talking about ( if I give her the time to understand), eats with lots of encouragement, is well looked after and is content with herself. She has inner strength from her Christian faith and I occasionally read to her from the Gideons Bible in her room on the occasions I find her in there at the end of the day.
        The down side is that firstly she is wheelchair bound after an unsupervised accident in the home, the deterioration is painfully slow but definite, she can’t respond with more than half a sentence and repeats the phrase she created as a kind of confidence thing. She eats better for me than the staff which is unfortunate as I can only be there an average of 4 times a week due to work shift patterns. Officially, the visitors can have sunday afternoon tea with the resident relative although I am available another once or twice in a week before evening meal where sometimes the staff give me the option to stay and feed her in her room. My Mother has been in the home for two years now and it is difficult for me to relate to the world and friends of two years ago to how things have changed in both my world and the world of her friends as she knew it. In addition, the resident becomes institutionalised with a lack of knowledge from the outside world. It was difficult to accept life as it was in the time leading up to that period and also in more recent times with the deterioration but I seem to cope with it and allow myself time out on a saturday for a break.

        • CherryPie says:
          October 13, 2014 at 12:12 am

          Thank you for updating me on your Mother’s health.

          I am sorry to hear about her accident that led to more problems. You are looking after her perfectly and you are doing the right thing taking time out for a break, you have to look after yourself too.

          Dementia is a difficult illness to cope with for the person who is experiencing it and also for the family and loved ones.

          CC

          • J_on_tour says:
            October 14, 2014 at 3:07 pm

            After reading my comment again, I should have clarified that she had the accident in her own home prior to twelve weeks in hospital and the subsequent two years in the nursing home.
            Thanks for your concerns.

  2. Andrew MacLaren-Scott says:
    October 12, 2014 at 11:45 pm

    Great photo, as ever.

    I’d somewhat dispute the validity of the quote (as often). (Remove the “All” and “all” and it would be somewhat more valid though).

    • CherryPie says:
      October 13, 2014 at 12:23 am

      After removing the Alls alls we come to this…

      “Happiness in the world comes from thinking about others, and suffering in the world comes from preoccupation with yourself.”

      Despite the grammatical errors/changes, the truth of the quote remains the same ;-)

  3. Ginnie says:
    October 13, 2014 at 12:50 am

    Should I mention that I KNEW Andrew was going to write what he did. :) It’s a good quote however “literally” one takes it. The meaning is well-taken. Thanks for the reminder, Cherry.

  4. Astrid says:
    October 13, 2014 at 12:59 am

    Beautiful flowers with the quote.

  5. Jennifer Richardson says:
    October 13, 2014 at 2:04 am

    gorgeous blossoms:)
    thanks for sharing,
    Jennifer

  6. ....peter:) says:
    October 13, 2014 at 2:52 am

    i just love your thought for the week Cherie… and the beautiful flowers….peter:)

  7. Mike@ A Bit About Britain says:
    October 13, 2014 at 10:22 am

    Enjoyed reading your posts about Portsmouth – my home town – and Winchester, where I used to cycle as a lad. A re-visit is long overdue. And of course Wessex should strike out for independence..! Joking aside – you have included some great narrative and super pictures – thank you.

  8. Ayush says:
    October 13, 2014 at 2:32 pm

    gorgeous shot! everything about this is excellent imo, Cheryl

  9. Donna@Living From Happiness says:
    October 13, 2014 at 3:01 pm

    I am finding this quote quite true right now but moving beyond the self is a bit hard currently….

  10. Claude says:
    October 13, 2014 at 3:37 pm

    Nice photo, as always.